Frum Fashionista’s Summer Beauty Guide (Hair, continued)

Now Black/Ethnic Products are laden with chemicals. Before a few years ago, if you wanted natural/organic hair care products you were, well….out of luck!


Now we gots options!  Surprisingly, some lines are affordable to boot!

One brand that I see a lot in health food stores is Aubrey Organics!  This Organic (mostly Vegan) is one of the more affordable green Ethnic hair lines: This supply should cost between $40- $50 depending on where you find it.

Honeysuckle Rose Shampoo for Dry Hair, $10

Blue Green Algae Hair Rescue Conditioning Mask
, $14
Aubrey Organics Blue Green Algae Conditioning Mask

Honeysuckle Rose Conditioner, $10

Detangling/Setting Lotion , $4
Aubrey Organics Primrose Tangle-Go Spray

Primrose Tangle-Go Hair Conditioner, Lusterizer and Styling Spray
, $4

I’m a big fan of Burt’s Bees! You can get these anywhere under $30

More Moisture Raspberry & Brazil Nut Shampoo, $8

More Moisture Raspberry & Brazil Nut Conditioner, $8

Avocado Butter Pre-Shampoo Treatment, $8

Deep Conditioner, $8

Another line that’s been getting heavy press lately is Carol’s Daughter!  It’s a celeb fave, natural, and not pricey considering the cache!
Sephora sells Carol’s Daughter.  This Tui Haircare Pack is $60.

 Includes:  shampoo, conditioner, deep conditioner, and hair oil. 

Although it’s not organic, it doesn’t contain tons of chemicals like traditional ethnic hair products!

Now a girl of color can go green without looking a toasted leaprecaun!
Tres chic!


Frum Fashionista’s Summer Beauty Guide (Hair)

If there is one thing black women are obsessed with is their hair. Venture down to any black neighborhood in the country, you are sure to find at least 3 salons no matter how small the neighborhood actually is. The only thing that may outnumber salons are churches.

With that said, healthy=happy! 

Here’s an article on how to maintain your hair between trips to the salon!  No matter the length of hair you have, or if you wear a sheital – the key to super fly hair is health, richness, and sheen. You want to walk down the street and have your hair blind passersby with it’s fabulosity! Maintain your locks this summer, slide on a pair of killa shades and you’re out the door…

Black/Ethinic Hair Care
Beauty Hair Supply Shopping List:

Deep Conditioner:


Setting Lotion:

Spray Moisturizer:

Intensive Moisturizer:

All of this should cost no more than $40 with tax.  You can go to or hit your local beauty supply shop that carries Ethnic hair care products!

Additional supplies for the Black Hair Care Arsenal:

  1. Rattail comb
  2. Plastic Rollers
  3. Metal Clips

How will you be paying for this? Beads and necklaces?


I was highly irresponsible when I was younger. I was very impulsive. As a result, I put my credit in the toilet. Add a psycho ex and you’ve got a recipe for disaster!

It took me ten years to fix a lot of the junk up. I still have a ways to go but I’m not as bad off as I used to be…

So many people are living paycheck to paycheck. Sweating bullets when the day school tuition bill finds it’s way into the letterbox. Add the mortgage fiasco and you’ve got a lot of people in trouble.

Thank goodness for Oprah, Suze, and Tyra! As women, we not only need to be prepared to fix a skinned knee. We need to cover our glamourous selves in case of




With that said, check out Oprah’s Debt Diet. Can you knuckle down and still look fab?

With that said, all is not lost if you have a charge account or two, or three! Follow the instructions in the link. If you are thinking about getting a credit card please use it responsibly and pay your bill in full if possible. If you can’t do that, don’t bother.

I allocate 10% of my income towards clothing for myself. For my son, I allocate $350 per season for clothes. Now I don’t spend nearly that much. I got approved for a Children’s Place card. Now, I get 10% off (that can be combined with current sales/specials), plus free shipping if I order online. Because that $350 is already set aside in my budget I can pay that card off in full and get no finance charges. I have the cash but I use the card to get better discounts and bonuses… The trick to using credit (especially for me since I’m rebuilding credit) is spend no more than your budget allows. Once you’re paying finance charges you’re screwed!

Sound off!

How To Shop for Interview Clothes on a Recent Graduate’s Budget.

You just graduated from college (or you’re still in school!) Now you’re making the interview rounds for your first “real” job, grad school, or med/law school.

What sucks is that you have to look the part without the cash. Those student loans aren’t going to pay themselves. So what’s a frum fashionista on the interview track do on a student budget?

VIP people you’ll need:

  • A shopping buddy with an eye for fashion.
  • A tailor. This person will become your BFF.

  1. Raid your closet: Work with what you have: don’t buy what you absolute don’t need. Get rid of what doesn’t fit you anymore: style wise or fit. Make sure what’s left is in good condition. The look you’re aiming for is timeless- not dated or trendy. (If you’re going to the creative field like music/art then you have a little more wiggle room. Not much though!)
  2. Raid your friends’ closets: Check out your friends’ wardrobes. Most likely your friends going through the same thing! Pool your resources by setting up a clothing/accessory exchange so that you all have decent interview outfits. Make sure you are the same size/body shape. I’m usually the tallest in my circles of friends. Oftentimes, my clothes are useless to others. What I do have is killer accessories!
  3. Hit the stores. Stick to the basics: blazer, slacks, button-down shirt and dress shoes, and a briefcase if you’re feeling really ambitious or have extra money.
  4. Try discount designer places first for larger expenses, like jackets and for accessories, like belts.
  5. Hit DSW! DSW has a large selection of work-appropriate styles. Others have had luck with Payless.
  6. Purchase several button-down shirts at time. If you have multiple interviews lined up, you can use the same blazer and pants without having to launder a shirt in between interviews, or if you get hired, a new shirt makes a new outfit.

Tips and Warnings:

  • Safety-pins are for punks!: Take your clothes to a professional tailor! Well-fitted clothes make a difference.
  • Don’t get too daring!: Stay away from prints and colors that are too bold. Stick with basic colors like black, brown, navy and gray instead and subtle patterns. 
  • Avoid synthetics!: I wish polyester died with the 70s because it looks cheap. Plus, they are hot and show sweat stains. Not the professional image you want to project.
  • Keep it subtle: no strong perfume or bold/jangly jewelry.
  • Power-chic; not super-sweet:  Avoid girly gear like pastels, ruffles, sugary prints.  You want to exude a vibe of authority and a willingness to take risks!

    Put a mangnifying glass on your cash!

    Last time, I tattled on my hubby! Now I’m gonna tell on myself.

    One of my vices is reading too much! I’m a major book lover.

    I was hitting the newsstand and buying newspapers and magazines.

    When I started going to my local community college, free copies of the local newspaper were available to students. So I stopped buying newspapers. In terms of magazines, I began to subscribe to my favorites one that I absolutely couldn’t go without: Lucky, Domino, Wired, Shape, Allure, Binah, and Blueprint. Subscribing is always cheaper than buying at the newsstand. Plus, many magazine are owned by the same publishing company so oftentimes they offer “Subscripe to X magazine and get Y at 50% off the subscription rate.” If you are a student or professional, you can get an even better discount.

    I am a bookstore addict. If you know this about yourself, then plan for this accordingly. There is a Waldenbooks and a Borders Outlet near me. So I signed up for Borders Rewards. Getting the card is free and you get perks such as:

    • $5 in Borders Bucks for every $150 of qualifying purchases both in store and at
    • great coupons and exclusive offers emailed to you weekly

    Now Barnes & Nobles membership is $25/year. To me, it’s not worth it, if you don’t have a Barnes & Noble near you. I had one when I was going to school in NYC and I had to purchase textbooks from there. In that situation, it was worth ponying up the cash!

    What about Jewish books? As a convert in training, I have a large required reading list. Since, DH is a BT on the move he has a required reading list too. Oy, oy, oy!

    I looked at the books on my required reading list. Twelve of the twenty books are from Feldheim. The others are from Artscroll. So I went a hunting! Some books, I found used on Amazon. However, some books you just can’t find there.

    So the wheels started to turn… Feldheim offers VIP Membership. The Silver level is $299. What even better is that they offer:

    • 10% discount all year ’round, no matter what quantity you buy
    • An additional 5% discount off during our special offers to all readers, such as our Chanukah Sale, Book Week, etc. (25% off during our Chanukah Sale!)
    • Free Books of your choice worth $20 from our special selection that will be delivered with your first purchase
    • Free Shipping with NO MINIMUM ORDER in the Continental USA
    • Personal VIP Service–as a VIP customer, you get VIP service! Just write us and we’ll call you at a time convenient for you when you need assistance. (10AM to 4PM EST).
    • 3 Bonus Raffle Tickets during our Chanukah sale gives you more chances to WIN!

    Some of the books on my required reading list is one the free books list. So I can get the majority of my required reading list at a discount. Not bad considering that cost of my required reading list is going be in the $300 – $350 range.

    That’s just the books.

    My husband’s ritual gear like tefillin/tzitzit are not cheap either. Once my son converts I have to pony up for his gear too. Not to mention conversion, beit din, and mikvah fees. Don’t get me started on the weddings and day schools either. If I even attempt to think about that my brain will explode into treif goo!

    Shopping on a Budget (intro)

    This is what I did:

    I looked at my finances hard.

    A friend suggested Pear Budget.
    It’s cheap (you get a free 30 day trial), easy to use and understand (if you a math phobe!) I went through our finances last year. Lo, and behold I found several holes in our budget.

    My husband was eating out for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. Then he would come home and eat what I cooked on top of that. So that was the first thing that was crossed out. If you break it down: trundling down to the kosher Dunkin’ Donuts or Krispy Creme for a coffee and a breakfast sandwich or bagel, you looking at least a $5 dollar purchase. Do that five days a week and you’re looking at:

    $20 a week,

    $90 a month,

    and $1040 a year.

    That’s just if one of you are grabbing breakfast on the go. Tack on a kosher take out lunch and the expense gets higher.

    Others have similar holes in their budget.  A coffee here and there can really add up.

    Find them and plug them up.

    “Beauty is not extravagance; beauty is life” – Imelda Marcos

    If you checked out my profile you would have seen this quote.

    However, one is forced to agree with her on this statement. Everything on the planet was created with it’s own signature beauty. Hashem is the ultimate designer. Some things one has peel away layers to see their inner beauty. Others are so awe-inspiring that one is left dumbstruck!

    I was talking with some people in my community re: my blog. There seems to be a running theme in this town. The ladies will say things like, “I don’t deserve to go shopping right now,” or “My husband won’t let me buy too many clothes.”

    What the fresh heck is going on? I have heard these sentiments from other women in other communities as well.  Is this a typical woman mentality when her needs/wants/dreams comes last (or at best secondary?)  I’ve been trapped in this mentality as well…

    What’s the point in a husband singing Eshet Chayil to you when you don’t feel like a queen in your own castle?  Women sacrifice everything for their family and their home; shouldn’t husbands do everything in their power to do the same?

    I love looking pretty and stylish- I was wearing Saks Fifth Avenue before I could sit up on my own.  I’m not going to change now.

    Therefore, I’m taking a stand…because I’m a fashionista on the edge!

    See what I did on the following posts….